I would like to tell you that ADHD is not just “Oh, you’re the one who just can’t stand still and annoys everyone around you”.
So, how does my ADHD actually look like?
– I have a very hard time focusing on conversations (especially in a crowded place or with multiple people, being an introvert making things even more challenging)
– I can do many things at once (none of them very well, of course). Imagine me coming home, trying to take off one shoe, a jacket, putting down some groceries, trying to eat, drink… ALL at once.
– Most of the time, I have no physical energy at all, even though I can run around all day. Because I can’t focus on one task. This energy is not really energy, but rather anxiety.
– Imagine being 10 steps ahead of yourself in your head or in a plain blank space. There is no in-between.
– I can’t watch a movie from beginning to the end.
– I can’t read a single page of some random book, but I can read for hours if the topic interests me enough.
Yes, there are drugs. Prescribed and non prescribed, legal and illegal (I’ve done most of them), but once you don’t take them, you’re at the point zero again or even worse. There are also plenty of good techniques about managing your ADHD without drugs. All of them take practice. Plenty of it. You don’t have to have ADHD to dislike the idea of being patient. And practice something you struggle with. A lot.
But there are some things I can focus on really well even without drugs.
Eat, sleep, walk.
Everything a humble human could wish for. And I am thankful for everything I can do. But somehow I still want more. To live and evolve, not just thrive. After all we weren’t born to do just these basic things. Or were we? This is a topic for some other post.
There is also a good part of ADHD thing. I’m never really bored. Even when I might think I am. I also have the ability to hyperfocus – this is when you become a Superman at your one special thing (not necessarily a productive one). I can daydream a lot.
I was always that kid that wanted to know how things work – this can also become my obsession when hyper-focusing, being even harder for people around me to recognize I’m having ADHD. Because I really liked school and learning new stuff. I still do.
But as you can imagine, you don’t have control over it and use it anytime you want. Or for anything you would want it to. You can learn how to control it, as you can control many things, but well, it takes practice. Being a person with ADHD…
Yeah, you get the picture.
I have plenty of experience with all sorts of diets (being a real expert with how to fail at LCHF multiple ways or the great allyoucaneatsugar diet), food supplements, herbs to improve focus (or to kill it in a second or even to end up in a mental institution), exercise, techniques to improve focus or just to relax. I’ve learned how to meditate, but not in a traditional way like many of you might imagine (sitting still, with legs crossing over your neck, saying ohm and trying to force-relax/focus yourself – not for me). I do it while I’m swimming or during a slow walk. I will share more on how to hack the ADHD or rather what you don’t do if you have ADHD on my further posts.
So, living with ADHD being your partner is really not easy. Even with the drugs and all possible techniques, you have to try way harder than the rest to achieve the same or even less.
Please be kind to people with ADHD (and other diseases and to all humans for that matter) and don’t say “You just have to try harder”. It’s like asking them to grow taller.
– 35 Things People With ADHD Want Everyone Else To Know
I know, it’s a BuzzFeed thing, but they’ve managed to show really nice how ADHD looks like. It’s fun stuff for relatives and others wanting to understand us, crazy people, a bit more. And the best part, you don’t have to read (much), just look at the pictures 🙂