Me and my ADHD

I would like to tell you that ADHD is not just “Oh, you’re the one who just can’t stand still and annoys everyone around you”.

So, how does my ADHD actually look like?

I have a very hard time focusing on conversations (especially in a crowded place or with multiple people, being an introvert making things even more challenging)

– I can do many things at once (none of them very well, of course). Imagine me coming home, trying to take off one shoe, a jacket, putting down some groceries, trying to eat, drink… ALL at once.

Most of the time, I have no physical energy at all, even though I can run around all day. Because I can’t focus on one task. This energy is not really energy, but rather anxiety.

– Imagine being 10 steps ahead of yourself in your head or in a plain blank space. There is no in-between.

– I can’t watch a movie from beginning to the end.

– I can’t read a single page of some random book, but I can read for hours if the topic interests me enough.

Yes, there are drugs. Prescribed and non prescribed, legal and illegal (I’ve done most of them), but once you don’t take them, you’re at the point zero again or even worse. There are also plenty of good techniques about managing your ADHD without drugs. All of them take practice. Plenty of it. You don’t have to have ADHD to dislike the idea of being patient. And practice something you struggle with. A lot.

But there are some things I can focus on really well even without drugs.

Eat, sleep, walk.

Everything a humble human could wish for. And I am thankful for everything I can do. But somehow I still want more. To live and evolve, not just thrive. After all we weren’t born to do just these basic things. Or were we? This is a topic for some other post.

There is also a good part of ADHD thing. I’m never really bored. Even when I might think I am. I also have the ability to hyperfocus – this is when you become a Superman at your one special thing (not necessarily a productive one). I can daydream a lot.

I was always that kid that wanted to know how things work – this can also become my obsession when hyper-focusing, being even harder for people around me to recognize I’m having ADHD. Because I really liked school and learning new stuff. I still do.

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But as you can imagine, you don’t have control over it and use it anytime you want. Or for anything you would want it to. You can learn how to control it, as you can control many things, but well, it takes practice. Being a person with ADHD…
Much.
More.
Practice.
And patience.
And time.
And drugs.
And practice…
Yeah, you get the picture.

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I have plenty of experience with all sorts of diets (being a real expert with how to fail at LCHF multiple ways or the great allyoucaneatsugar diet), food supplements, herbs to improve focus (or to kill it in a second or even to end up in a mental institution), exercise, techniques to improve focus or just to relax. I’ve learned how to meditate, but not in a traditional way like many of you might imagine (sitting still, with legs crossing over your neck, saying ohm and trying to force-relax/focus yourself – not for me). I do it while I’m swimming or during a slow walk. I will share more on how to hack the ADHD or rather what you don’t do if you have ADHD on my further posts.

So, living with ADHD being your partner is really not easy. Even with the drugs and all possible techniques, you have to try way harder than the rest to achieve the same or even less.

Please be kind to people with ADHD (and other diseases and to all humans for that matter) and don’t say “You just have to try harder”. It’s like asking them to grow taller.

Further reading:
35 Things People With ADHD Want Everyone Else To Know

I know, it’s a BuzzFeed thing, but they’ve managed to show really nice how ADHD looks like. It’s fun stuff for relatives and others wanting to understand us, crazy people, a bit more. And the best part, you don’t have to read (much), just look at the pictures 🙂

11 Replies to “Me and my ADHD”

  1. You actually seem par for the course. You’re describing me and all my friends while growing up. As a teacher, I often had kids who had difficulty staying focused. No problem. I explained the rules of the class and the parameters allowed. For one third grade student, I explained he could draw while I was discussing/teaching, if he couldn’t focus. He could also stand next to the desk if he was fidgety. Just don’t bother the other students who are trying to listen and work. With time, I found ways he could do work that he found more interesting, but still task oriented. **On another occasion, I asked a fourth grade student why he didn’t do his work. He said I keep forgetting, not knowing why. After the second time I asked, I looked to see where he was coming from. Realizing, I said you don’t have permission to forget. I don’t think he’d ever heard that one before (I could see what he was doing.). He started doing his work and his grades improved. Of course, I vary assignments, sometimes including art or other forms of work. **You sound par for the course. In my class, you would have done well. Just from your words, I know. It takes all different people. My suggestion (Of course, I don’t know you. But I’ve been doing this a long time.) is realize you’re as everyone else, each person with their own personality, but learn and get the work done, in your way, but do it well. I’ve always been one who learns in his own way: out of the box. All the best.

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  2. Thank you for the like on my post My teen & ADHD and thank you for your story. So much of what you describe is going on in my home. I’m happy to hear you walk, she and I walk too. We take it one day at a time. Lots of time and patience as you say.

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  3. The thing is, we’ve created programs for this and that, which is good, but many teachers are intuitive. My sister was fantastic as a special education teacher (I saw and heard how she was with them, and the ideas were fanstastic.), but she later went to a different career as she couldn’t use intuition or “in the moment” ideas. As a teacher myself, I’m best when intuitive, seeing in the moment what will help the students. Used to be, teachers could be intuitive and more creative. If your child was in my class, I can almost guarantee they would have no problems as long as the parents do their best, for I would do my best.

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